What is Your Source?
// May 21st, 2008 // Christian Living, Family Life
Ben preached a great sermon on Mother’s Day. It wasn’t exactly related to mothers (although he did tie it into mothers a few times :) because it applies to every person who is a Christian. The thing that got him thinking about the sermon was a conversation we had had earlier that week. We were talking about our children and their need for discipline and love in their lives. We were commenting on the apparent lack of response on their part and the way we had really slacked off of clear, concise, consistent discipline. In talking we realized that too often we make the offense be about something other then the heart issue. It becomes something that offends us or our “rules”.
The kids can pretty quickly pick up on what the rules are and follow those in order to protect themselves from further discipline. What we realized in the way we had begun to approach these issues was that we were creating children who were very good at figuring out the rules and following them to make their lives easier, but we did not have children who were facing their sin and dealing with it in the appropriate way.
As we were sitting here discussing the mess we had made and coming up with ways to “fix” it, we realized that we have been doing the very same thing ourselves in our relationship with God. We’ve figured out what makes our lives look “together” and healthy and we have come up with rules and solutions so that we can make sure we check off the right boxes so that we are deemed “good” or even “Christian” people. The thing is that you can only go so far doing that before you just simply snap. You can’t handle the weight of every area of your life being on you, so eventually you just snap. The thing that we had gotten away from, the thing that prevents that from happening is making Jesus our source in every aspect of our lives. Too often he is an afterthought if we can’t figure out how to do it ourselves. Instead, He should be our source. He should be who we look to for every aspect of our lives. He should be the center of all that we do. When He is, we are not bearing the load, He is!
This is such a simple foundation of Christian living, but it is one that too often gets thrown to the side. We do all the things that look and seem good, but we don’t always ask God what the best thing is. What is the thing that he is requiring of us? When we do that and only that we won’t burn out, even if it is more then we are doing now! I know that sounds crazy, but it is true that when we walk in obedience to what God has for us HE will provide what we need to do that.
So, for me when I get bogged down in the every day stuff I need to remember that Jesus needs to be my source. When I start out the day with Him and when I start out the day praying for my children, they don’t stress me out so much and I am able to walk in a place of peace even when it looks like things are falling all around me. So, I guess the question is if God isn’t your source then who or what is? I have learned the hard way that I CAN’T do it. I would much rather give it to Him!







When my first husband was very ill I began to realize how scared I was as I thought of his death. We had no savings, bills galore from his sickness and no life insurance. I lived in a house that was part of his job (pastor) and knew I was going to be homeless with no income when he died.
It was at that low point I realized my whole dependency had to be on God or I was not going to make it. It was a valuable lesson and after his death I clung to “My Dependency” for dear life. I was never lacking!
Obedience is better than sacrifice. Jesus is the way. Obey His heart within and you will do all that is out in the open to His glory.
There is life in the spirit; everything else is death.
Amazing what kids can teach us! It’s beautiful to hear you write this. When they are teenagers, they don’t keep the rules to get along. They find ways to break them out of your sight.
clarification:
I do not mean to imply that teenage sneeking is inevitable. Just that it is more likely when as Christian parents, we have made the issue rules instead of heart before God.
Awesome insight, Heather. It reminds me of when the apostle Paul spoke of the Mosaic law being our tutor before we accept Christ. It’s like all through history from when the 10 commandments and Mosaic law were given until Jesus’ resurrection, that code of conduct was teaching humanity about God’s nature, our sin, and our inability to meet God’s standard. Then Jesus comes and changes everything. So, maybe what your kids have been going through is that tutoring process of binding themselves to a law of conduct, but then eventually seeing that they really need Jesus. Who knows, maybe what you see as a failing will be part of what God uses in their lives to grow them in Him!